Why are people shunned in society today

Let me give you an example, when you get a job its obvious that now you have income you will buy some new good clothing, i got a job and i did that as well, and for my children too, not to mean i was mean to my other family members — no, i was generous and to others just as a human being, to the best of my understanding.

There is a time rodents entered my house and ate almost all my clothes, they ate even cables for electric gadget, i suspected a spiritual attack. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. It takes years of rejection. Coping may work on single, isolated, experiences, but is useless if not balanced by acceptance. A life of rejection or worse, being rejected during the teenage and youth years cannot be solved by some kind of coping mechanism. Everyones always scared of whats different? Or what they dont know?

A bunch of close minded people, that wouldnt be able to find the same door they used to walk in to a room? To leave! Its like, how can i love you! If i cant love myself? Or why would i help anyone that wont help their self?

Point in hand. People degrade, slander and slam people cause they mad at themselves! Self gratification? Thats why! Nothing better to to do with their time! Maybe thats why? I like rejection! Cause i like to prove people wrong! Its like a struggle, if im not bending or breaking, what else is their to do?

Get threw it! We all learned these things in pre school! We only have 1 life, so i wouldnt give anymore of my time to those type of people! And if ya ever got to see any of em face yo face id thank em! For making me for who i am. Nothing here seems to help.

This author is a great writer, though. Maybe try to write about why it happens? Best regards. To Babby B. I have a girlfriend that can not stop sharing every little part of her life on Facebook. We all stand to gain by accepting positive comments from others so long as they are constructive and do not hinder or harm what we have already. Too much idle internet time is unproductive I think as we humans have hands and minds that can do so much more beautiful things.

I am 20 yrs old and I understand how social acceptance and rejection are very important factors that contribute to overall happiness yet I believe my young generation has taken a downfall in being able to achieve being satisfied with themselves because they seek acceptance through social media.

As demographics are constantly on the rise it seems unrealistic to think positively on the future. Governments are temporarily handing out financial compensation and I doubt this can be sustainable. The only way I believe we can succeed as humans on this earth is to radically change the order of values.

The right to live, work, have food and shelter as a basis for all beforehand. Then the establishment of superior talent recognition credits for those who actually are blessed with gifts that embellish life in an unselfish way. This would be a great start to reinvent ourselves. APS regularly opens certain online articles for discussion on our website. And human groups had to protect themselves from outgroups. The same thing happens today at so many levels. Racism and nationalism being glaring examples.

Physical similarity is just one among many similarity criteria that hold groups together. Groups that live together also had to be psychologically similar. They had to share the same beliefs, values, norms, and traditions. In this scenario, shunning can be used as a means of social control.

The person being shunned is effectively being told:. At worst, they may be subjected to acts of violence. A lot depends on what part of the world you live in. In the not so free countries, social exclusion can have dangerous consequences. To help you handle being shunned, I want to introduce an important concept to you- warmth score. Within a group, people are usually nice and warm to each other.

Their warmth scores for each other are all positive. They all tend to look the same, think the same, and behave the same. During social exclusion, we need to detect the event that threatens a relationship detecting that something is wrong or abnormal and appraise how painful it is pain is the warning sound. Both systems are associated with the dACC and evoke social pain. There is another area of the brain, called the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex VLPFC , that is known to reduce social pain.

The loudness of the alarm the amount of social pain changes with time during social exclusion, based on the degree of threat associated with the exclusion.

Thus, it seems that we continuously detect, appraise, and regulate social pain during social exclusion. Another method of investigating how the brain reacts to social exclusion is by using event-related brain potential ERP , which is a family of brain waves.

By using both fMRI and ERP techniques, we can know what happens in the brain in response to each step of social exclusion such as each ball throw, for example on a very fast timescale, as well as how the brain responds to the complete social exclusion experience from the beginning to the end of the experience of social exclusion. Like the fMRI studies, ERP studies have also shown that social exclusion causes processes of detection, appraisal, and regulation. Detection in response to social exclusion cues is associated with N2 components approximately ms following exclusion cues , the appraisal is associated with P3 components approximately ms following exclusion cues , and the regulation is associated with slow wave component approximately ms following exclusion cues.

In addition, both fMRI and ERP studies have revealed that brain regions and processes related to detection, appraisal, and regulation change over time. More specifically, excluded individuals show increased detection and appraisal processes e. These findings suggest that the brain does not have just one simple way of processing social exclusion—the brain responses change over time. What should you do if you hear the alarm bells ringing without stopping? How we cope with social exclusion is known to be situation dependent.

Excluded individuals enhance their social monitoring system SMS to determine how to behave. More specifically, excluded people become highly attentive to how other people might be feeling and thinking.

The brain regions that are associated with understanding thoughts and beliefs of others the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex and temporoparietal junction and cognitive processes related to attention ERP component called the P1 , and facial recognition ERP component called the N are known to be involved with the SMS.

This system helps excluded people to navigate social environments. Excluded people decide how they should behave based on SMS. If there are cues of social acceptance, such as opportunities to build new relationships and the smiling faces of others, excluded people behave prosocially, which means behaviors performed with intention of helping others and being included by others.

Prosocial behavior helps to reduce social pain by helping the person to feel connected. On the other hand, excluded people might also behave aggressively if there are cues indicating social threats e. Behaving aggressively helps to protect them from further social exclusion. If a person is so socially excluded that there are no other people in his or her life, how does the excluded individual cope?

It is known that excluded people in such situations sometimes use mental representations associated with feelings of connectivity, such as memories of family members and favorite TV characters, to temporarily reduce their social pain. Thus, excluded people cope flexibly depending on the situation. Kurt Cobain was an anti-conformist. He was not part of the scene, didn't want anything to do with the spotlight. Kurt Cobain was an innovator. He believed in originality and imagination.

He did interviews and live shows and talked to the media. He spoke his mind. He said the things that most people were afraid to say at the time.

Because Kurt Cobain didn't care. He didn't care what people think. So why is this ironic? Well, its MTV that led to his demise. Cobain hated seeing his songs, his band, his music all over the mainstream pop culture trash that he had been speaking out against all his life.

And in the end he couldn't take it. With no intent of disrespect, he blew his brains out.